Here are some awesome and empowering quotes from several very strong female celebrities.
And Kristen Stewart.
No, you know what? Fuck you.
Let me tell you about Kristen Stewart.
Let’s talk about how she’s the centerpiece of one of the most inexplicably popular misogynistic pieces of film shit and somehow gets blamed for it sucking, despite the fact that, hey, the books were actually worse. For those who were lucky enough to escape reading the actual books, her apparent lack of emotion is 100% accurate to Bella’s character, because Bella is in fact not a character but a blank white wall for fourteen-year-old girls to project themselves onto. Robert Pattinson is not the only one in the cast who hates Twilight, thank you.
Let’s talk about how she got crucified in the media for having an affair with a married man, when that man was her director. And let’s remember that she was called all manner of things for “ruining her relationship with RPattz” when she wasn’t even engaged to the dude, let alone married with kids. But oh no, she gets called a slut because she’s Kristen Stewart, she gets her career fucked because she’s Kristen Stewart, and the dude gets off scott free.
Let’s talk about how she is incredibly shy and anxious (rather, incidentally, like Chris Evans) but does film anyway, because she’s just that awesome.
Fuck your noise. She’s not the best actor in the world but she sure as hell doesn’t deserve that kind of shit.
…Huh. Y’know, you Tumblr-folk are pretty adept at getting me to respect the Twilight stars again. Good for you.
Plus, Daniel Radcliffe likes Kristen. If you don’t agree with Dan Radcliffe, it’s time to get off Tumblr.
Florida teen Kaitlyn Hunt, 18, is seeing her young life turned upside down and her future jeopardized simply because she fell in love. Unfortunately for her, she fell in love with a younger girl who has vindictive bigots for parents.
She was kicked off the basketball team because of the potential for “drama” her presence created. She’s been vilified by fellow students, called “criminal,” “rapist” and “child abuser.” She was expelled from school. And far worse. She’s facing a lifetime label of “sex-offender,” because the other girl’s parents brought criminal charges against her despite the fact that the relationship was consensual. What’s more, according to Hunt’s parents, Hunt was 17 when the relationship began, but the other girl’s parents waited until after she turned 18 to go to police.
Unbelievably, prosecutors have decided to press the criminal charge.
So the prosecutor’s office in Sebastian River, Florida thinks this is a worthwhile use of taxpayer money and the court’s time.
Fuck everything about this.
I don’t have words for how pointless this is to my eyes. I feel so bad for Kaitlyn Hunt.
My beautiful charm bracelet from my parents today.
It’s funny, to think of now, how I use to be so fure I’d never be adopted. That I would never have a family. I got to that point at the age of seventeen, sure that I was unwanted by the world and I always would be. If I was lucky I might find one person to love me. But I never wanted to be taken in as part of a family. I didn’t believe it would last.
It was a long, difficult road to get to where I am now, to where I was last fall when I first asked my Dad and Mom if I could take their last name. On Sunday we celebrated that, celebrated that I am part of their family, I have parents, brothers, I am a daughter, a sister, I am loved and valued and poked fun at. We all rib each other good.
Words can’t express how precious this bracelet is to me, or the love that it symbolizes.
Family - Blood, Choice and Love
I .. I don’t really have words right now. I’m still in awe of today, of my life, of how very blessed I am. And in tears after the extreme rush of just flat out joy that today has been.
It was the Adoption Party day, or rather, the Nameday celebration if you go with a geeky reference. And it started out lovely, with my Lady and my Lord arriving first, and then my parents. My parents adored them both, and I believe the same was true on the other side. My Lady helped my Mom and I with various kitchen prep stuff, and there was a lot of talking and teasing and it was just lovely.
Friends started to arrive, and more family too, my brothers, their girls, my godmother. The house filled up with people who have been such a major part of my life in the past few years, some of which I hadn’t even thought of in that way until we were all gathered. Everyone socialized beautifully with the others, my roommates joining in as well. It was a house full of happy people, laughter and good food. And I was able to be open about my relationship with my Lady and my Lord, accepted just the way I am.
My Lady and my Lord surprised me with a beautiful amethyst and diamond heart necklace. It is hands down the most beautiful piece of jewel I’ve ever had and I love it beyond words.
For the whole weekend both my Mom and my Lady had been teasing me about secrets they knew. The necklace was one of them. My Mom gave me the second, a gorgeous charm bracelet with the initials N.E.B. and an additional charm that said Daughter on it. My last name use to start with a C, but once the name change is officially legal it will start with a B. My Mom gave me the bracelet after a little speech about how happy they were to have me as part of the family, how proud they were of me. And then my Dad brought out his mom’s charm bracelet, she passed away several years ago and he was very close to her. I get to chose one of the charms of her bracelet to add to mine.
I felt so loved. And with all of them gathered in around me, these people with their support and laughter and love I thanked them all, I said how much they meant to me, that they had become the family I had never believed I would have. But I do, I have a family beyond just those tied to me by blood, or by choice. I am surrounded by love.
Today I feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
Poly/Kink - Conversations with my Lady
In my previous blog about the lunch date with my Lady and my Mom I spoke of good conversation being sparked. It was good enough, and important enough that I thought I’d write about it, sound it out a bit more in my head.
See I had started to get a bit worried that my relationship with my Lady physically was being outpaced by the physicality I have with my Lord Captain. And that is the truth. He and I have a far more physical relationship, and a further progressed sexual experience together. But in talking to my Lady I realized just why that is.
There’s no avoiding that with my Lady our physical relationship is heavily laced with our kink. Or rather, the D/s dynamic we are both wanting to keep on hold.
I can’t be lost in a submissive haze right now. I have a new job, I have to work a full week, yoga, errands to run… I have to be an adult and right now I don’t have a place where just falling apart for a bit would be a good thing. And after wanting to be submissive for so long, aching for her in particular, I’d probably be apt to slid too far to one extreme or another.
So we are waiting. And it was wonderful, to be able to talk about that, to realize just why the physical side of our relationship has sort of paused. Our emotional and mental intimacy is incredible. I cherish that. Just as I cherish the physical intimacy I’m building with my Lord. It’s just taking a bit of adjusting to get use to the fact that both relationships are at such vastly different places when sometimes it feels like they should be more level/equal.
But this isn’t a either/or sort of thing. This is a emotional, whatever is right for us sort of thing. There was lots of other conversation, but this is the bit I found the most important. Though damn I can’t wait until she and I can finally go down that path. Hopefully it will be within the next year, elsewise I might explode.
Adoption Party/First Day at work nails. I decided to get ambitious. China Glaze’s Spontaneous for the base, with Serengeti Midnight for the black, Zoya’s Adine and China Glaze’s Sweet Hook for the inside. Not bad for first attempt.
The rest of the nails are CG’s Spontaneous with French tip of Zoya’s Adina. I’m rather smitten with them. And excited.
When I say, ‘I love you,’ it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You’re a heck of a person.
Poly/Family - Mom meets My Lady
It went well.
It went really really well.
In fact I’m not sure it could have gone better. We ended up driving up to where my mom was staying north of us because my dad was using their truck to run errands. Mom had scouted out some lunch possibilities and suggested this healthy/organic place down near the town square and so off we went.
The food was absolutely amazing. I chose a salad with a cumin vinaigrette and oh I was in heaven. What was better was the conversation. Was how no topic was off limits really. My Lady and I were flirting some in front of my mom and she just took it like it was normal. And that’s the thing, to her it is.
I really felt just how blessed I am today.
I got to share very intimate parts of my life with the two women who mean the most to me, who have supported me the most. My mom got to see how my Lady and I are naturally together, and my Lady got to know my amazing adopted mom better. We had lots of laughs, and their senses of humor are similar. As are their tastes in some things. I sort of had that funny moment of realizing that several of the things I find so attractive in my Lady are strong qualities in my mom.
There was a fair amount of discussion about how far I’ve come, but also about their struggles as well. I realized that they both have had their own trials that have helped them grow, just like the ones I’ve gone through.
They are both my biggest cheerleaders, my stauchest support and unfraid of shoving me out of comfort zones.
I think one of my favorite moments was when my Lord Captain called on his lunch break and my Lady talked to him a bit, handed me the phone and he and I chatted, before handing the phone back to her. It was such a normal little slice of my life, and my mom just smiled, happy to see the connection between all three of us.
There was of course some rather odd moments. Like talking about erotica and sex clubs and certain relationship dynamics. But I really value that I can have those sort of conversations with my Mom. It’s unusual, but it’s very much a gift.
So yeah… today went really well and sparked some amazing conversation between my Lady and I.